Dear Aunty Tessy,
My bosom friend confided in me few days ago that she saw one of our other friends husband who recently got married holding hands with this “hot chick” not too long ago, heading inside a popular hotel. She said she did not know what to make of it. You don’t hold hands with another woman who is not your wife going inside a hotel . She wanted to know how to deal with this information. Please help.
First of all, you should do nothing for now. Sit on that information and watch how things unfold in the coming months or years. Just because you saw two people (married man) holding hands with someone doesn’t make him an adulterer. Did she catch them in bed together? Does she know whether they are related? Did she catch them kissing? Holding hands with someone married or unmarried does not technically qualify him or her as having an affair. Tell her not to be quick to judge. Now if she catches him again and again with the same or different women, then she can conclude that something might be going on. Until that time, mute the information and let your friend and her new husband enjoy their new union.
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